The Secret Tibet (The Forbidden world)

Introduction:

By Tenzin Pema-Beginning from cradle to grave, female population has always been contributing a lot in the families in particular and the society at large. It is generally believed that in order to have a happy and successful society, it is utmost important and essential to make every family happy, healthy, prosperous and peaceful. In order to impress their parents and to gain extra love and affection, almost all the female children always try to excel in every field. They even learn to do household chores and also look after their younger siblings. All these small deeds bring lots of happiness and satisfaction to their parents.

Generally, female offspring are second mother to their younger siblings, because they observe and see their mother’s ways of loving and caring her children and they are more or less trained at home in nurturing kids and they even try their gained knowledge during their mother’s absence. In that way, she even lightens the work-loads of mother at home.

After marriage, she is the right hand supporter to her life-partner and supports in accomplishing many things which are helpful to their family in particular and nation at large. She is his best friend who understands him the best and if necessary, she is even mother to him. Due to her true love, respect and support, he is able to do wonders in the world.

After few years of her marriage, she undertakes the most important responsibility of the world, i.e. Motherhood. Soon after conception, she possesses such a strong will-power to accept death to avoid any obstacle to her unborn baby and right after this stage of women till last breath, she engrosses herself in fulfilling desires of her family members and forgets everything about her own existence. Who else can do such a noble work? Yes! Only Mother!!! But unfortunately, some forget her hardships and sacrifices when they are successful in achieving something later and some even do not acknowledge the greatness of Mother.

Beyond the four walls of her house, she even undertakes several additional important responsibilities in the society like teachers, politicians, doctors, artists, singers, engineers, business women, journalists, nurses, etc. In that way, she contributes equally in the society.

Tibetan women’s role in the decision-making arena of CTA:

CTA welcomes everyone to be her family members, but since it is the family which runs the whole society or nation and it is essential to all the members to be educated, able, determined and courageous to regard the nation’s goal more important than personal profit.

And as far as the Tibetan women are concerned, we are not equally represented in the decision-making arena of the CTA and it is neither because we are lacking courage or determination to do something for our nation nor anyone is stopping us to participate in that arena. But the causes for Tibetan women being under represented in the decision-making arena of CTA are following:

Family: As I have mentioned earlier that most of the women are always fully engrossed in household chores and fulfilling desires of her family members because she feels more joy and happy when her family members are happy and contented. Tibetan women are very much successful in maintaining a healthy and happy family, which contributes a lot in the development of a nation. While doing so, she can’t give extra time and energy to others like government-related matters. Therefore, she lacks in knowledge regarding governmental procedures.

Children: In order to have a healthy nation, it is utmost important to nurture all the tender seeds with great care. In order to give sound physical, mental and emotional growth to every child, both the parents need to give enough time to their children and generally, all the fathers hardly have enough time from their tight daily schedule for their offspring and therefore, mother is indispensable to take the role of both the parents. In that way, again she sacrifices her own wishes happily for the sake of her children and as a result, she can’t concentrate fully on other works other than her family and children.

Education: It may not be false, if I mention here that Tibetan women’s inclination towards learning and enriching knowledge is inferior to men and I don’t mean that all the women are included in that category, but majority of us definitely falls in this category. It seems that females are likely to be best interested in studies when they are in school, but majority of them start losing interest in studies during college life or after school life and it keeps on declining since then. They find more interest in others like home, relationships, etc. Eventually, the standard of education among females becomes poor and they are likely to face difficulty in gaining confidence with regards to initiating or leading any project in the government.

How female representation in the decision-making arena of the CTA can be improved:

Propagandization of the contributions and achievements of Tibetan women in past: Tibetan women have been struggling and working so hard since time immemorial and there have been several numbers of patriots and great examples among our female ancestors. Now we need to bring them into light through book publications, dramas, movies, etc. In that way, our younger generation will be inspired to march forward on their footsteps.

Proper guidance by parents: We the Tibetans are usually being given highly respected value education by our parents and our unique culture since our childhood which greatly helps us to become a successful person in future. But these days, due to their hectic schedule, some parents are unable to give enough time to their offspring which ultimately affects the sound development of the children and as a result, the children face difficulties when they grow up and the parents fail to help them at that period of time.

Lesson of ‘rights and duties’ to our students: Rights and duties are like the two sides of a coin, so one is meaningless without the company of other. Therefore, proper lesson of both the rights and duties should be imparted to the students. If anyone does her duties sincerely then she is surely be rewarded with her rights. If anyone always strives hard to get and enjoy only rights, then this is not good and healthy. Both are important requisites and have to go together and both should be taught together.

Special education to female students: It would be favourable if the female students are given special education regarding leadership, confidence build-up, expertise in particular subject, master in minimum two languages including mother-tongue, etc. They should be given proper counseling and guidance to choose the appropriate career. Additionally, the importance and scope of the respective career in our society should also be highlighted. It is also effective and forceful to introduce well-qualified young Tibetan women like doctor, engineer, manager, social worker, writer, poetess, artists, etc. among the female students and arrange program for special interaction among them.

Program for Tibetan working women-folk: In addition to all the household chores, many Tibetan women also work in different offices either big or small. They possess enough basic education to reach higher goals in their lives, but the need at this moment is to inspire them to take out minimum one hour everyday from their domestic chores just to enrich their knowledge. They should be convinced that the knowledge they have gained so far is not enough because there is no edge for knowledge and everyone needs to learn throughout life. Initially, they must read and write according to their own taste and when they get well-adapted to this routine then they can switch over to the necessity of private and public issues.

Value Education: We the Tibetan women opt to do all the household chores voluntarily at home and it is neither rule nor forced by anyone but it is our well mannered character. We find real joy and happiness when our family members are happy and contented with our work. This is what we call value education. Therefore, we should continue with this noble work of peaceful home-maker and simultaneously, we must take out some leisure time either in the morning or evening to enrich our knowledge, vocabulary, language and experience. Eventually, the Tibetan women will be on the top list for excelling in all the walks of life either at home or in office. If all the mothers are successful in every field then surely all the daughters will be very much inspired by their mothers’ achievements and contributions.

Conclusion:

In a nutshell, the contribution of womanhood in this world is unfathomable but usually, many are not acknowledged. Generally, most of the women are left silently behind the four walls of the family where they are very much engrossed with household chores, nurturing children and fulfilling desires of all her family members. Due to her untiring and selfless support, all the men are successful in gaining name, fame and money outside the family. Therefore, it is appropriate to quote here that, “There is woman behind every successful man”. This is one of the most important contributions of womanhood in making this world a better place to live in. Simultaneously, what is needed at this juncture is that along with the above contributions, women need to take out some time for herself to enrich knowledge and broaden their assigned work and be confident to participate in all the enterprises.

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